“Silence in golden.”
You all would have heard that. While maintaining silence is known to have its benefits, you need to choose your responses mindfully.
There are moments where a no-silence response could damage the person on the other end. While you are important, remember that the person on the other end is a reflection or projection of some part of you.
Will you be comfortable when someone does not respond to you, especially when you are trying to express yourself? No, I am not talking about toxic relationships. But, constructive communication.
How does it feel when a therapist or healer does not respond to you when you were in a dire need to be heard? Just a simple yes or ok or don’t worry; we can work through could bring a shift.
So next time, before you go silent, or you choose not to respond to someone, pause and think. Is it okay to go silent or is it okay to answer?
Yes, there might be people who might be nagging. There might be people who go on with the same stories. And, it is understood that maintaining healthy boundaries is important. But, the question is, can you do it in a manner that is constructive for all involved?
Giving someone an answer does not mean you are giving away your power or you are not prioritizing yourself. But it just means you are okay with responding while remaining in integrity with yourself.
Remaining silent is different from ghosting or consciously ignoring someone. So, if you are choosing not to answer someone and choosing to go silent, what is your intent? Think!