Yes, complaining is the only thing you need to stop now so that you can manifest.
Complaining stems from lack. If you have set your intent clear and doing visualizations and affirmations, but if you are complaining about something, the vibrational frequency could easily downgrade to that of lack. And, it could easily hamper the manifestation process.
So why do you complain?
Complaining stems from comparison. And, in comparison, the need to feel secure – a very basic human feeling. Feeling secure makes you feel that everything is right and in control.
Comparison happens when your security is affected. The slightest insecurity could also happen when you try to be something as per certain ideas/beliefs/ expectations put forward by yourself or others.
Let us take an example.
A 60-year-old comparing himself with his 20-year-old self can lead to the 60-year-old complaining about health, energy, and much more. “I was not like this.” “I was healthier and stronger.” “I had more energy,” and much more. And, then, he Googles and finds some images of someone who looks entirely different – maybe fitter, stronger, and much more. He starts feeling that something is not right.
And, when he feels something is not right, his security gets a hit. This insecurity kicks off the whirlwind of thoughts that deepens comparison. He starts criticizing himself. And, if the ideas put forth in the search results do not match his ideas, then he starts worrying. In worst cases – he even starts criticizing the other person.
The complaining spiral deepens. He gets confused. There is a lack of clarity. He gets demotivated, disappointed, and even, depressed from the so-called stress that the perceived anticipations and expectations cause. Results – more complaining.
Now, let us see the difference between feeling insecure and not resonating with someone.
There is a subtle difference between not resonating with what others say and getting insecure about what others say. It is okay not to resonate with everything that happens because everyone perceives everything differently. Being neutral – not reacting or talking about it – is the way when you do not resonate with someone. Ideally, you do not feel anything in such a space.
But when something creates some thought or feeling in you, especially towards the negative (for lack of a better word), of the spectrum, the security feels shaken. It gives rise to complaining.
Complaining can be
“I am not good enough.”
“I am suffering.”
“Nothing is working for me.”
Or
“How can he do this? It should be some gimmick.”
“People are doing things to spread fear.”
Either way is complaining.
So be mindful.
But, then, what about venting out?
Venting can be considered as a release when done occasionally. Daily venting vibrationally equals to complaining. Venting is releasing the emotions you feel about a certain situation with the intent of letting go and moving forward. There is no expectation from the person who holds space.
Complaining, on the other hand, is loaded with suppressed emotions. Also, somewhere when you complain, you expect the other person to reciprocate in some manner. It could create a fog over clear thinking, thereby deferring inspired action.
Do not feel guilty of what happened in the past. All of us have had bouts of complaining and comparison and venting out. It is time to make the change. It is time to be mindful. Let go of the need to complain. Let things be the way they are. You have the power to change how you respond by mindfully shifting your thoughts and responses. Feel empowered. Muster the courage and confidence and embrace the power of transforming and manifesting your desired life consciously.