Dear healers, mentors, gurus, doctors across all streams, physiotherapists, chiropractors, and all who are in the field of healing,
You all are in the field of healing because we have a deep compassion for humanity. But where does that disappear as soon as you start experiencing financial inflow or gain more practice or become popular or xyz reason? Why does the compassion get replaced with presumptions and assumptions? Why do you not let the clients/patients express themselves? Why do you feel that they are trying to overpower you?
People come to you mostly because they want to be heard. Many a time, talking with a good listener itself relieves half the issue of the person who comes. Touch your heart and check with yourself. Are you a good listener? Are you listening or are you hearing?
Yes, they will cry. They could break down. They might be so helpless that they just need the assurance and reassurance that things could work out in their favour. Could you give them that? If things are looking gloomy, could you adopt a constructive way to share it?
Any person seeks healing in any form so that he/she could feel stable. All of them have an underlying element of anxiety they carry. Never ever tell someone who is experiencing anxiety the following
- Everything is just in your head. You change your thoughts and everything will be fine.
- Do not make them feel guilty for expressing how they feel. They don’t do it intentionally.
- Remember that you could handle it the way you wish – one small change in the way you respond – a teeny-weeny bit of compassion and a constructive response could give them a sense of hope and make them feel a little better. They might get the inner strength and hope that they could move through whatever they’re experiencing a little easier.
- Do not slam the door on their face – do not block them or ignore them. Blocking or ignoring someone is a sign of you feeling helpless – it is not setting boundaries, but it is you not being able to maintain boundaries with ease because you are avoiding facing your demons – you are denying that you could be feeling like that some time.
Check with yourself!
- What do I feel when someone expresses something in a certain way?
- Why do I feel it that way?
- Is there something in me that I am avoiding?
- Is there something that I don’t want to face?
- Is this something I might have done or I might do?
Answering these questions will help you go deeper within yourself, understand the way you react and respond, and shift experiences, for yourself and those who come to you.
You are an authority figure but that doesn’t mean you put the person who comes to you down. Being in authority comes with a strong need to be compassionate, a good listener, and an awesome team player.
Are you one?
Yes, you all have learnt things – you all carry experiences but that doesn’t give anyone the power to generalize anything. Let go of all assumptions and presumptions. Allow yourself to listen. Let every person you meet be a fresh canvas – even if they are meeting you for the nth time. Never project your thoughts and feelings onto them. Hold space with compassion. Compassion brings detachment. Compassion brings synarchy. Compassion keeps and maintains boundaries with ease. Be compassionate.
Everyone has their shadow sides – something everyone wants to avoid or something people don’t want to acknowledge. Be aware of that. Embracing the shadow gives you an opportunity shift – to embrace the light.
Be okay when you come face to face with the shadow – you don’t have to blame yourself or others. All you need is to look at the situation objectively. The compassion will flow.
Read the article again and take a look at how your day unfolds.
Have a think about if there was no pressure from the other person / people to judge you, and no money that you needed to make – would you in fact act the same way?