A few months ago, I wrote an open note to all those holding space for healing – doctors, energy workers, coaches, physiotherapists – anyone offering their presence in service to another’s transformation.

Today, I want to write a note to those who are seeking healing.

Every practitioner has once been a seeker. We have all walked through the fire. And in many ways, we still do. Healing is not a linear path. Those who now hold space for others have stood in the very place you are standing – uncertain, tender, yearning.

And those who reach out for healing need to know this:

Everyone who facilitates healing for you in some way always wishes good for you. While many could come across as insensitive or non-compassionate, here are often many unseen reasons behind that – timing, energetic boundaries, personal capacity, and sometimes aspects that are unexplainable. While your experience is always valid and deserves to be honored, it is equally important to recognize that practitioners are not the Source of healing. We are conduits – vessels – for something greater: call it God, the Universe, Spirit, or Life itself.

Yes, information is abundant. Every modality brings its own language, tools, and maps. And, most of the time, the practitioners are open to listening. But when you start imposing your views and perceptions on the practitioner, when suggestions become directive, when the seeker insists on how the session should be done or what outcome must happen, the boundary is trespassed. That becomes control – not collaboration.

Healing requires trust. Trust does not mean blind faith – it means entering a space of co-creation, where both the seeker and the practitioner respect the sacredness of the process. When control replaces trust, healing becomes strained. When openness leads the way, miracles are possible.

While I agree this happens because of your need to feel healed, understand that healing, at the end of the day, lies in your hands. We just facilitate only as much as you allow us to do. Just like you would not walk into a doctor’s clinic and dictate a surgery that is not needed, in healing work too – suggestion is welcome, but imposition is not. The difference is subtle. Feel into it.

On Inner Wounds and Reflection

Another point that I want to talk about is about the inner wounds. If you feel offended with the words of a practitioner, understand two things

• You are getting irritated with that part of you which does not like something
• You are seeing a reflection of what needs to be addressed

Instead of telling the practitioner, “This is a red flag for me,” or “You are invalidating me,” try and understand what the person is trying to communicate. Consider that the message might have come from a place of compassion. If in doubt, talk it through.

On Free Sessions and Energetic Exchange

Many practitioners offer them with genuine love and service. But it is important to know: receiving something freely does not mean bypassing the sacred exchange. Clinging to a practitioner until you “feel healed” can create energetic dependency – and this often causes more harm than good. Healing cannot be outsourced. It must be claimed.

Healing is a relationship. Not a transaction. Not an entitlement. So do not take the practitioners for granted.

Healing cannot be outsourced. It comes from within.  It is welcomed with presence. Lived. Integrated. No one – not even the most gifted healer, coach, or guide – can do the deep inner work for you.

They can:

• Support you with tools
• Hold a safe, sacred space
• Activate energy, shift blocks
• Reflect truths you may not yet see

But they cannot make you integrate the shift. They can’t force you to choose differently. They cannot live the transformation on your behalf.

To outsource healing means unconsciously handing over responsibility to someone else – hoping they will “fix” everything. But true healing is not passive. It is a return to inner ownership.

To choose healing from within means:

• You take full responsibility for your journey
• You show up with willingness and presence
• You allow yourself to feel, shift, and grow
• You stay consistent even when it is hard

A Note from Someone Who Has Been on Both Sides

I have been a seeker.

I have been a facilitator.

Both roles have taught me one thing: Everyone is doing the best they can with what they know.

No one is wrong. Everyone is responding from their level of awareness, their wounds, their wiring. And when we understand this, compassion enters the room.

Do not personalize everything. Nothing is personal here. Just observe – as a seeker or as a practitioner, and then communicate. Never disappear on someone – that never solves anything. If you disappear on someone because some wound of yours got triggered, you will find someone else who will trigger the same wound until you face it and understand it.

So, stop controlling – there is no need to dominate. There is nothing to be afraid. Take charge of your life, your healing. Communicate your needs very clearly and allow the guidance to flow. If you have doubts, ask the practitioner for clarity. Be assertive and constructive, but never be controlling or dominating. And, remember, nobody but you are responsible for your healing.

So, when you walk into a healing space –

• Come as you are.
• Speak your truth.
• Allow your heart to be open, not just your mind.
• Let the walls down, not your discernment.
• Do not tell the practitioner how to do something.
• At any point, if you no longer resonate, communicate to the practitioner and feel free to move forward.

And above all – remember: healing is not something that is done to you. It is something that happens through you.

Practitioners can offer guidance, tools, wisdom, and even create the most supportive environment – but whether you, as a seeker, actually receives it, acts on it, or changes… is entirely up to you.